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Guest Contributor. Sexual guilt is a struggle, which takes place within ourselves—self-imposed in our own minds. Imagine hearing your friends laugh and joke about another who shares a similar experience to you. It can result in panic attacks, self-harm, suicide or violence. How are people treated who have a different experience or whose experience falls closer to the dominant narrative or standard? Allow yourself to experience pleasure in the spaces and places you feel shame.
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We live in a society that is deeply uncomfortable with sex, pleasure and diverse bodies and that discomfort is reflected through the lens we see the world and what we expect of ourselves and others. If there are so many differences, why are we all held to the same standards and taught that we should follow the same scripts?
Now think of a mentor that recognises your strengths and encourages you gently and sometimes firmly to move in the right direction. Imagine reading books and seeing movies with plot lines that revolved around hating on your body and your experiences. What if feelings were messengers that were trying to tell you something?
This often comes down to someone else doing something to us that we did not want or pushing ourselves in a way that we did not want because we thought we had to. This is self-compassion, kindness and acceptance. It also highlights the serious impact it has on their wellbeing, relationships and experience. Shame says we must keep that part of ourselves secret. People are into different things. Other times the thing that helps best is to distract yourself or find someone else to talk to until you feel like you can cope again.
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